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Cora and
I invited you to involve your children in a myriad of projects
this summer. The latest project included short- and long-term
goal setting (see last week's article). While this project
is fun, the development of goal-setting attitudes is serious
business. We'll explore that serious side today as we look
at a few problems that might develop between your children
and these lists (or between you and your children). Then,
we'll move forward to help transform goals into realities
with investment possibilities.
1.
Younger children can't imagine one-hundred things they'd like
to do in the future. These children (under age 8) often can't
fathom the numbers of "things" involved in the term, "one-hundred,"
let alone maintain a serious aspect to these lists. In this
case, this project is fun practice for future goal-setting.
2.
This list of goals is - initially - unencumbered by financial
need. If you're on a strict budget, your children sense this
confinement. Accordingly, they will often comply with a parent's
needs by restricting their own desires. In this case, assure
your children that this list is a game unencumbered by finances.
The financial realities arrive soon enough.
3.
Children feel less restricted with their lists if parents
approve of their choices. "Ride an elephant" doesn't necessarily
mean the child wants to join the circus. They may want to
become a veterinarian or simply fulfill a fantasy grounded
in a cartoon movie. This goal-setting list isn't a parental
approval test, so encourage your child to "dream wild."
4.
This list is not meant to become a barrier between family
members. If your child blows this project off altogether,
don't worry. If you only have one child, sit near them and
begin your own list. Have fun with it! You might list five
to twenty items and leave it in a conspicuous place where
your child's curiosity will get the better of them. Continue
this practice until you have 100 goals, and then praise yourself
highly for this accomplishment. If you have several children
and just one with attitude, join the cooperative children
as you make your own list. You can avoid the heavy-handed
praise, because your attitude-challenged child will 1) become
angry and leave the room only to return later (sometimes much
later, but they will uncover what happened), and 2) eventually
hang out to watch the proceedings. Praise for work on this
project is meant for the group, including the challenged child.
Let this child know it's never too late to start his or her
own list.
5.
Alternately, if your child is serious about this project
and can't imagine any goals, ask them if he or she wants your
help. You might expand their horizons with new categories,
because goals aren't always concerned with material acquisitions.
They could include actions, like helping others; they could
include improvements, like learning a new language. If they
seem intimidated by these new categories, offer to join them
in their efforts until they feel comfortable. Hopefully, once
they understand there's no harm in imagining, they'll loosen
that bone-crushing grip on your hand.
While
this list cannot contain all the problems you might encounter
with your children and their efforts with goal-setting, I
hope it helps you create solutions for your particular situation.
On the other hand, if you didn't encounter problems, you're
ready to move your children and their goals to the next level.
These next steps include all the work you've done with your
children this summer to date, and next week we'll expand on
how to incorporate these tools:
1.
If your children accomplished last week's project, they've
culled out the short-term goals. If not, help them separate
the list into short- and long-term goals. Short-term goals
are goals that they can financially and physically accomplish
within the next year. "Financially accomplish" means those
goals they can accomplish with outside jobs or jobs around
the house. You supply guidelines for the latter employment
opportunities. Long-term goals can begin today, but they take
longer to finish (like learning a new language). Other long-term
goals (a nine-year-old who wants to drive) might not begin
for several years.
2.
After separating the lists, count how many items are in the
short- and long-term goals. It's good to have about twelve
items in the short-term goal list, or one per month. If that
list is short, now's the time to beef it up with more goals
to meet this quota.
3.
Now it's time to pull out the company lists from the project
we began with Investment
Scavenger Hunt and Commercial
Investments. At this point, we begin to break the
company lists down into sectors. A great tool to learn sectors
is provided by the list on the Research
page at BUYandHOLD, under the "Search by Category"
menu. This part of the project may take several days, so don't
be discouraged if the lists aren't broken down by next week.
If your child(ren) manage to list companies (even one) under
three different categories, they'll do fine! Also, a warning
- many of your company listings might not be included in the
"top ten" listings at BUYandHOLD. Don't worry - this omission
doesn't mean your company is the pits or that it won't make
a profit. It just means that your fellow BuyandHolders are
not purchasing their stock.
4.
Parents - this week take a look at "What
Kind of BUYandHOLD Investor Are You?" Ponder your
position within these categories, and determine how your children
fit into the scheme of things as investors. We'll approach
these categories next week when we begin to combine goals
and finances.
Until
Then,
Linda Goin
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